It has been quite a while since I have taken some time to put my thoughts to paper so I thought that a new blog post would be a good place to start on this lazy Sunday.
Living with anxiety and depression is an ongoing battle and raising awareness for other sufferers like myself is something that I feel extremely passionate about. I shared a post a few weeks ago that detailed the effects of stopping antidepressants abruptly. I saw so many comments from people across the globe and it was so comforting to know that so many people are in this fight together, no matter how alone their illness may make them feel at times.
I know that when a lot of people think of depression, they often associate the illness with someone who is suicidal, grumpy, antisocial or just “down and upset”… the list goes on. This in fact, is not always the case. Depression and anxiety (especially for me) make situations that other people would see as insignificant, very problematic and can often make every day situations become extremely draining.
People who suffer with any mental health issue usually over-analyse every aspect of their life; including relationships with people. The post that I shared described the exact feelings that I go through on a day-to-day basis. I will spend hours of my life overthinking every tiny detail, until I often think myself into oblivion and reduce myself to tears and a depressive state that is hard to get back out of.
The post went on to say something along the lines of… “You read my message but did not reply, have I done something to annoy/upset you? They made a comment about me and everyone laughed, were they joking or does everyone think that? They made a comment about my outfit, do I look awful? Everyone else got invited apart from me, does this mean I am not liked? Why have they cancelled on me, have I done something? Do they talk about me? What do they say about me? Am I good enough?” Have I done that wrong?’
Everything that was listed in this post is very true and it made me realise the amount of time in which people may spend overthinking situations that they cannot control/change, which in turn makes them incredibly unhappy. It also made me think about all the times that someone has said a passing comment (in their eyes) that has affected me but they actually have no idea. For someone who does not go through these personal battles, it can be seen as an insignificant comment or “just a joke” but to someone who overthinks every single element of their life… they can spend hours wondering what was meant.
The reason behind this post is to try and create even the smallest amount of awareness for someone who goes through similar symptoms like the ones listed above. Some days, it has taken every ounce of strength and bravery in someone to get themselves out of the door and go to a social event/normal day. On those days, most people have no idea the lengths that this person may have gone through to get to that place and sometimes the smallest comment/joke can send them into a spiral that they are unable to get back out of.
Medication helps keep these symptoms at bay (especially for me) and restores the balance of serotonin that is missing. I have come to learn that not everyone is the same as the next and although someone may make a joke/fleeting comment that means no harm, they may not understand how the person on the receiving end has taken this and what they are going through at that exact moment in time.
I guess it all comes down to the title of this blog and it is a quote that I have shared a lot in the past… “Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about, be kind always.” Forever a quote that I will live by. You never know what the person next to you is dealing with at this very moment… Take time to be kind to everyone that you meet and be a little bit more understanding/aware to things that may not always be visible.
Just be nice, it’s that simple.