As most of you know, I usually look for quotes to give me some inspiration on my writing and today is no different. Today I was looking through quotes after a busy morning and found another simple yet effective quote… the five W’s of life. Who, What, When, Where and Why!
Who you are is what makes you special. Do not change for anyone.
I completely agree with this, as much as I am bad for believing in this myself. Who you are is absolutely what makes you special. Everybody’s life is different and we are all unique in our own special ways. I have spent so much of my life (and I am pretty sure I will continue to even after this) comparing myself to other people around me and online to those I perceive to be “perfect”.
I know I am not the only one who does this but for someone who suffers with Body Dysmorphic Disorder this is a far more prominent issue in my life that most of my other symptoms. I will sit and compare my current situation with others around me and I will get disheartened at the fact that I am where I am. I will compare my life and my looks to those that I see on Instagram and Facebook and get myself so upset but really all we are seeing are the best snippets of people’s lives. No one posts about that hard times/bad selfies… I know I certainly don’t! So why do we sit and compare the worst of ourselves to the best of other people? What we all need to remember is that there is no one else in the world quite like us and the people around us love and appreciate everything that we are. We all have hard times and traits we perceive to be bad but our imperfections are what make us who we are. You should never change for anyone because the person or people that are meant to be in your life will be with you for exactly who you are right now.
What lies ahead will always be a mystery. Don’t be afraid to explore.
This one is what I can really relate to at the moment. I have always thought that the path I am currently on will always remain the same and that I will be stuck in my current job for the rest of my life. Incorrect. You can do anything you put your mind to and sometimes an opportunity that comes up might not be what you expected but if you never try, you never know how good something potentially may be. You should never be afraid to explore other avenues in your life, whether that be new countries, new jobs or even a complete career change. Always keep your options open because sometimes change gives you room to grow in ways you never thought you could.
When life pushes you over, push back harder.
This is something I have tried speaking a lot about lately. Life will never give you anything you cannot handle and you were given this life because you were strong enough to live it. At time I have come to feel hopeless and like I cannot cope anymore but after these stages I have come back fighting harder and stronger than ever! The past few weeks I have been a nervous wreck posting my blogs but when I get the kind and positive feedback it makes me so much more confident. Basically, what I am trying to say is that, even when you feel like you cannot go on anymore or that things are too difficult to handle… try and see that light at the end of the tunnel and push for it because once you are out of your hard times, you will be a far stronger person out of the end of it.
Where there are choices to make, make the one you won’t regret.
This relates to the “what” quote but if you make any decisions in your life, always go with your gut and make the choice that is going to make you grow as a person. People always say that you never regret the things you did do, you often regret the things you did not do. If you are ever worried about what the future holds and if you should make the decision or stay comfortable with where you are… always explore the option of the new challenge. I am quite pessimistic by nature and am a natural worrier, which means I always think about the worst thing that could happen rather than the best of the situations but I am surrounded by a lot of optimistic people who have helped guide me with my choices. Being guided by them and their optimism has helped me grow as a person. If I didn’t make the choice of moving to a new country with my job and partner, I would have never experienced the things I have done now. I would still be at home wondering “what if?” and dreaming of travelling rather than getting out of my comfort zone and being able to explore incredible destinations and meeting new people. My view when I moved to Hong Kong was that, home will always be there and if I do not like it, there is always a flight back home. The same goes with everything in life, the thing holding you back is most likely always going to be there, so when there are choices to make, try and step out your comfort zone instead of holding back and wondering what if.
Why things happen will never be certain. Take it in stride and move forward.
We can never question why some things happen to us, all we can do is take it step by step and keep moving forwards. There will always be bad things happening in the world and sometimes they may end up affecting us but there will always be that light at the end of the tunnel and as I said before, you were only dealt that hand because you were strong enough to take it on.
I will never know why and how I became so down and anxious at times and there have been multiple occasions where I have tried to pinpoint exactly what made me this way but the truth is… we don’t know why these things happen and the reality is that this is who I am and its making me stronger as a person day by day even when I do not realise it. We can spend our life stressing over things that have happened and things we could have done or dealt with better but it doesn’t make any difference to the past. We just need to keep moving forwards and use them times to learn and grow as people.
The Five W’s of life are always good to refer back to for anybody when times are tough and I know I certainly will be using them in future to keep me going.